What You Don't Want To Know... And What Your Kids Don't Want To Tell You

     I am sure this might enrage a number of people but this is something that I feel I must put out there.  I have compiled a survey for teenagers in several areas of my state.  I have asked for complete honesty and I have promised complete confidentiality however I believe that the answers are imperative for adults to not only be aware of but to learn how to understand who our children are and what is going on in the world in which they live.  

     I am going to provide the survey for everyone to see and would love some feedback.  I can not promise anonymity if you provide answers in a comment however I can copy and paste your response without reveling your identity if you email me at caring_hands@comcast.net. Please take some time because this topic affects us all!

1. Do you feel like you have a close relationship with your parent(s)?  Can you talk with them about ANYTHING?
2. Who is the first person you think of when you have something serious you need to talk with another person about.
3. Do you feel like you parents know and understand everything about you?
4. If you do not talk with your parent(s) is it because you fear their reaction or because you think it is none of their business?
5. Do you think your parents treat you reasonably for the age that you are?
6. Do your parents monitor your actions and activities or leave you to do what you want when you want?
7. Do you drink?
8. How often do you drink?
9. How much do you drink?
10. What kind of alcohol do you drink?
11. Do you ever drink alone?
12. How do you get your alcohol?
13. Do you know someone who drinks?
14.     0-5 people    6-10 people 11 or more people
15. Do you use tobacco products?
16. What kind of tobacco products do you use?
17. How often do you use them?
18. How do you get your tobacco products?
19. Have you ever smoked marijuana?
20. How often do you smoke marijuana?
21. Do you know someone who smokes marijuana?
22.     0-5 people    6-10 people 11 or more people
23. Do you ever smoke marijuana alone?
24. How do you get your marijuana?
25. Do you use any other form of narcotic?
26. How often do you use other forms of narcotics?
27. Do you ever use narcotics alone?
28. Do you know someone who uses other forms of narcotics?
29.     0-5 people        6-10 people         11 or more people
30. What narcotics do you (have you) use(d)?  This includes prescription narcotics that you have either used more than you should or used another persons prescription.
31. What narcotics are being used by people you know?
32. Have you ever had sex
33. How old were you when you had your first sexual experience (other than intercourse)
34. How old were you when you started having sex?
35. How many partners have you had?
36. Do you ALWAYS use protection?
37. Have you ever had a pregnancy scare?
38. Do you think that sex is serious or is it just something to do.
39. Has anyone ever pressured you into having sex (or doing something sexual with them) by either force or emotional coercion (if you love me...)?
40. Do you regret loosing your virginity?
41. Do you regret that you have not lost your virginity?
42. Have you ever taken proactive pictures?
43. Have you ever taken nude pictures?
44. Have you ever filmed your self or been filmed?
45. Have you ever posted these pictures on line?
46. Have you ever Sexted anyone?
47. Have you ever felt depressed for more than 2 days in a row?
48. How often do you feel depressed?
49. Do you ever feel stressed?
50. How long do you feel stressed?
51. What causes you to feel stressed?
52. Do you think you have ever had anxiety?
53. What has caused you to feel anxious?
54. Do you ever feel out of control?
55. Have you ever felt violent?
56. Have you ever feel aggressive enough to hurt something or someone?
57. Have you ever been bullied?
58. Have you ever bullied another person?
59. Have you ever been threatened by a peer?
60. Have you ever been abused by anyone?
61. Do you think there is anything in your life that you would want or need to discuss with someone with experience talking with teens?
62. If not discussed already is there something you think is important enough to add to this list?